Challenging Temperments

I’m sure you’ve heard about the new study:Breastfed babies show more challenging temperaments, study finds Sheesh. I have been the mother of four exclusively breastfed children and one of their primary personality traits, especially so when they were tiny babies, was being very easy going. One had colic, so she would cry a LOT at night, but the rest were all easy, quiet, happy, and engaging (and my colicky baby was like this when she wasn’t colicky.) I would never ever have described any of them as difficult, temperamental, or challenging. (except the colicky one, sometimes, but that was more my expectations than her way of being, poor baby) So seriously, is it the slinging? The ON DEMAND? What is it about the women in the study that made their experience so different than mine? Most days I never heard a peep out of my babies, perhaps a little grunt to tell me they were hungry, then I just adjusted a wee bit and they were nursing, easy. Of course, I really never put them down. Is that the missing element?

Your thoughts?…

Work/Life Balance.

…This comic is based on this article: the 23 best countries for work life balance, we are number 23 I literally had a HUH? moment. I get that women need and want to work outside of the home, while being moms, for a variety of different reasons. I’m not complaining about women who work or have careers, at least not here, and never in such a broad way. I’m complaining that this study is saying that work and leisure time create balance (in men and childless women, apparently), but that women who have children and are working outside of the home are also creating ‘balance’. Are they saying that mothering is something to put on a shelf while you get on with your work/life balance? Or that women are so good at multitasking that they can do three things: mothering, working full time AND getting leisure time balance? OR are they saying that working mothers just don’t need leisure time?

Can we get back to that place where being a mother/teacher/homemaker was considered enough of a job to warrant respect? Because if we could get back to that place then we could consider ways to empower women who choose that life path, we could help them to have the power, control, and means to survive in this world. Let’s do that. I have girls, I want them to have choices.